You Sexy Mother A Life-Changing Approach to Motherhood by Jodie Hedley-Ward

Author:Jodie Hedley-Ward
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Family & Relationships/Parenting Motherhood
ISBN: 978-1-921497-61-2
Publisher: ReadHowYouWant
Published: 2009-01-01T00:00:00+00:00

Where has all the romance gone?

It can be confronting when you look back at photos of yourself with your husband or partner before you became parents. Wistfully you remember those carefree days when you strolled arm-in-arm without a moment’s thought for anyone else’s sleeping or feeding routine. You didn’t have to pack three bags before you walked out the door, and if you wanted to stay out all night, you could. There is no denying the fact that parenthood changes the dynamics in a relationship, and the reality is often far more challenging than any of us could imagine.

Everything feels far worse when you start imagining that you are the only couple dealing with this ‘relationship dysmorphia’. You start to question why you got together in the first place when things like your partner’s carefree nature, which was what attracted you in the first place, now drives you crazy when he fails to be as organised as you when it comes to the kids. You start looking around at other couples, wondering if they are dealing with the same issues. It’s not something that pops up in everyday conversation, so you start to imagine that everyone else is blissfully happy and that there’s something drastically wrong with your relationship.

Our partners keep saying that they want more time with us, and that only adds to the guilt we may already be feeling when we find there aren’t enough hours in the day. When the kids are finally in bed at night and the opportunity presents itself for intimacy, often all we can think about is sleep as we wonder how many hours we will be lucky enough to get that night.

Even when we do surrender to the idea of being intimate with our partners there’s that nagging feeling that the children might wake at any moment and need us. We find that we can’t relax and enjoy intimacy like we used to. This, coupled with severe sleep deprivation and possibly the feeling that our bodies resemble a milking machine rather than a sex goddess, makes the whole issue of sex fully loaded – in an emotional sense. Yes, we want to be that sexy wife/mother combo, but our minds are working overtime as we wonder how our post-baby body will look to our partners. The list of things we fret about is endless, from niggling concerns over stretch marks to a tummy that just won’t accept that the pregnancy has ended!

The most sexy, desirable thing about any woman is confidence, and the fact that you are a mum as well as everything else you were before motherhood makes you even more appealing. You are more of a woman than ever before, and stretch marks can either limit your enjoyment of lovemaking and intimacy or they can act as the equivalent of a badge of honour – reminding you of some of the best achievements of your life!

Stay positive and remind yourself that this challenging time of early parenthood will provide a rock-solid foundation for the rest of your life together.

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